Aloha, friends! We have some wonderful thoughts once again from our Board Chair, moderator, and most important, our dear friend Peter Kafka. I found myself nodding to myself many times while reading this, and I’m sure you will too. Thank you Peter, for voicing what our thoughts so beautifully! 

As I sit down to write this reminder notice about our gathering on Monday my thoughts are a little muddied. I have been thinking about this responsibility for several days but my body has kind of been feeling “junk”. As a result, the bright, cheery and creative thoughts have been buried in the pickle barrel of my mind and the surface seems clouded with a scummy brine. What to do?

Anyone living with cancer, and particularly those of us under some form of ongoing treatment go through cycles of feeling out of sorts. Nothing you can point to in a symptomatic sense that is the source of the malaise, just a general feeling of “BLAH”. Enough so that it can color the day gray.

In cycles such as this, whether short or long I have learned to show up as best I can. I don’t want to drag others around me into the clouds. I don’t need sympathy, or well-intentioned inquiries as to; “what’s wrong”? Nothing is wrong in my best guess. It is just part of the rhythm of this cancer dance and I am pretty used to it after all these years.

I am very aware that there are many who are battling with much more challenging circumstances at this moment. Whether it be those on our calls who have been very candid about their own prognosis or progression of prostate cancer, or the many thousands around the world who are fighting for their lives at home or in hospitals against the ravages of the Covid-19 virus. By now, after a year into this worldwide pandemic there are not many of us who don’t have some degree of connection to others who are or have suffered with this virus.

We are fortunate that we have such a strong body of peer support for our journey with prostate cancer. We can be there for each other and lift up the spirits of those who might be scared or challenged. We have all been there.

So, it is with these thoughts that I would invite you to join our ongoing conversations and discussions about our challenges with a diagnosis of prostate cancer as we support each other. Our general focus is on the bright side, the positive and encouraging medical advances and knowledge about our disease as well as our individual victories and successes. But we are certainly attuned to the darker side of this disease and very much aware of the threat.

We at AnCan through our Virtual online/telephone weekly support meetings and advocacy, work hard as peers to provide whatever support and backup as we can in your journey with prostate cancer. But we don’t claim to have all the answers. We encourage you to share your experiences. We learn from each other. Keep connected, information is power! We are always there for you but you are “Your Own Best Advocate!”