“WINNING AND LOSING”
As I sit at my desk, it is Monday morning November 2nd the day before election day. I woke up this morning thinking of this theme and how applicable it is to those of us dealing with a cancer diagnosis. In our case a diagnosis of Prostate Cancer.
For 24 years my final career was as a maintenance supervisor for Haleakala National Park. One of my duties in that position was to be a Heli-Manager. This involved coordinating and managing the ground operations for the periodic use of contract helicopters that we used to transport firewood and other materials to the Park’s historic backcountry cabins. This job had many inherent dangers including hooking up a swivel cable to the belly of a helicopter hovering just a foot or two over my head, loading cargo nets with materials to be sling loaded to the drop sites, calculating the weights of each load, ensuring the safety of myself and that of the rest of my ground crew and communicating by radio to the pilot and others of my crew on the receiving end of the cargo. It was a lot to keep track of, and it required a high level of intensity and concentration.
One Monday morning during this operation one of my employees came to work, and his home state professional football team had lost in the playoffs the day before. He was pretty bummed out. So bummed out that I didn’t take it seriously at first. Afterall, football was just a game in my mind. Life goes on. But in his mind, it was pretty close to the end of the world. I tried my best to get him to “let it go”. But he would not drop his gloomy attitude of defeat. It was so pervasive in him and he would not stop talking about it to the rest of the crew. It was becoming a big distraction and for the safety of our task at hand I had to send him off to do another job on his own far away from our helicopter operations.
I bring up this story because it is all too easy to associate a cancer diagnosis with somehow losing. This can be an insidious and infectious attitude that can not only weigh down ourselves, but those around us including family, friends and even our medical support community. An exaggerated negative attitude and clinging to the feeling that one has “lost” can be a dangerous distraction.
In the bigger picture, we have not lost. Our bodies might be quite challenged due to our diagnosis, but we still have a vital part to play in our family, our workplace, our community and it is NOT to infect all of these others with a bummed-out attitude lest we drive them away, and we quickly will.
Our attitude, like diet and exercise is one of the key things that we have absolute control over. In my own experience if I find myself starting to wake up on the wrong side of the bed, I rearrange the furniture and put THAT side of the bed against the wall so that I have to wake up on the RIGHT side. Bottom line, take responsibility for your own attitude!