by Rick Davis | Feb 10, 2021 | Advocacy, Blood Cancers, Brain Tumors, Cancer Caregivers, Cancer Resources, Health Resources, hospice and palliative, Maui, mCRPC, MedaFit, Men 'Speaking Freely', Men's Breast Cancer, Multiple Sclerosis, nmCRPC, Nutrition, Ovarian Cancer, Prostate Cancer, Recent News, RMC, Sarcoidosis, Thyroid Cancer, Webinars, Women's Breast Cancer
Dr. B.J. Miller’s Prognosis Declaration Can Revolutionize the Quality of Your Treatment Path
One of the most compassionate, influential and remarkable docs I have had the great fortune to encounter since I got into this biz, is Dr. BJ Miller. We are honored to have BJ on our Advisory Board, and while we rarely speak live, I consider him a friend.
More significantly, a couple of men lost to this disease who I have known well, welcomed BJ to their medical teams …. and he made a huge difference to them. In a recent webiinar “Making Medical Decisions”, BJ shared a revolutionary document with us ….BJ’s Prognosis+Declaration
All too often medical teams put their foot in their mouth …. and sometimes unwittingly yours, when they provide an unrequested prognosis for your situation. Some may want to know how serious their disease is .. or how long they have to live; others frequenbtly do not. The Prognosis Declaration offers four (4) options from knowing everything to knowing nothing, or maybe having your caregiver know but not you. You determine what you want to hear, and you give the Prognosis Declaration to your medical team upfront ….. brilliant! The form was developed by one of BJ’s patients who lost his wife to cancer.
The whole webinar, Managing Your Medical Decisons, can be heard here – it’s truly worth a listen.
Dr. Miller, btw, now runs his own non-profit organization The Center for Dying and Living. For many years he has been on the clinical and teaching faculty at UCSF. BJ’s remarkable TED Talk, ” What Really Matters At THe End of Life” now boasts over 12 million views.
by Alexa Jett | Jan 27, 2021 | Cancer Resources, Blood Cancers, Cancer Caregivers, Health Resources, Men 'Speaking Freely', Men's Breast Cancer, Multiple Sclerosis, Ovarian Cancer, Prostate Cancer, RMC, Sarcoidosis, Thyroid Cancer, Women's Breast Cancer
If you’ve ever come to one of our Virtual Support Groups, you’ve probably heard “be your own best advocate“! It is a favorite mantra of Rick’s, and I’m happy to report it’s rubbed off on me as well. That driving philosophy inspires us to provide information via our groups, webinars, and this blog.
We came across a great blog post by our friends at CancerConnect that does just that. C.H. Weaver M.D wrote a phenomenal piece titled “An Oncologist Explains “Routine” Blood Tests Performed in Cancer Patients“. It has everything from CBC (Complete Blood Count) to more specialized tests like PT (Prothrombin time) and Ferritin. I love how simple Dr. Weaver explained things, and provided images too. As a visual learner, it was great to see examples.
YOU are a very important part of your care team, and I’m certain this will help empower you even further when you get your lab results back.
May all your lab draws be quick, painless, and easily understood!
by Alexa Jett | Jan 21, 2021 | AYA, Blood Cancers, Brain Tumors, Cancer Caregivers, Cancer Resources, Men 'Speaking Freely', Men's Breast Cancer, Multiple Sclerosis, Ovarian Cancer, Prostate Cancer, RMC, Sarcoidosis, Thyroid Cancer
At our last Cancer Caregivers Virtual Support Group meeting, Wendy Garvin Mayo, APRN, RN brought a wonderful resource to our attention!
Ho’oponopono – is a Hawaiian practice of reflection and forgiveness. On Saturday, January 24rd at 11am EST, Cindy Cooley Brockway and I are hosting a second Morning Shared Journaling Experience that is a reinterpretation of this beautiful practice.
”I’m sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you. I love you.” Gentle, cleansing, creative and refreshing.
Hope you can join us: click the link to join https://us02web.zoom.us/j/89798556209
I’m certain this is a can’t miss event for healing. Thank you so much that you do for our community, Wendy!
For information on our peer-led video chat CANCER CAREGIVERS VIRTUAL SUPPORT GROUP, click here.
To SIGN UP for the Group or any other of our AnCan Virtual Support groups, visit our Contact Us page
by Rick Davis | Jan 10, 2021 | Recent News, Advocacy, AYA, Blood Cancers, Brain Tumors, Cancer Caregivers, Cancer Resources, Health Resources, Maui, mCRPC, Men 'Speaking Freely', Men's Breast Cancer, Multiple Sclerosis, nmCRPC, Nutrition, Ovarian Cancer, Prostate Cancer, RMC, Sarcoidosis, Thyroid Cancer, Women's Breast Cancer
Our Board Chair and long time moderator, Peter Kafka, tells us how he fortuitoulsy got his Covid vaccination last week. For the first time, Peter adds the High Risk/Recurrent//Advanced Prostate Cancer Group to his Moderation repertoire this week.
POKEY MAN
i just returned this morning from getting my initial Covid-19 Moderna vaccination. Happy to report that it was an uneventful event. My anxiety level was increasing in recent days as our positive cases began to tick up considerably out here on little Maui in the middle of the Pacific ocean. Information here is slow to filter down and when I inquired about the shot I was tole that it would be some time in April or May since I was not yet 75 years old. Then, I got a surpise call from the Pacific Cancer Foundation which I volunteer for in a support and advocacy capacity and they told me that they could get me into their priority group today.
I am certainly not bragging about the above, but I mention it because there was absolutely no hesitation or concern in me about going forward with the vaccination. In the past 7-years I have been poked and scoped and proded more times then I can count. This kind of comes along with signing up for medical treatment for advanced prostate cancer. I understand that there may be as many as 40% of Americans who may decline getting a Covid-19 vaccination according to polls and predictions. And this is a personal choice in our society. But I doubt that those of us who find ourselves in this subset of Prostate Cancer guys would be so reluctant.
Over the years I have met men who chose not to enter into any kind of treatment for their more advanced prostate cancer diagnosis. Some of these men are still around and others not. I always wrestle with what my role is in this decision. I can encourage, I can strongly suggest that someone at least consult with a doctor who might be more pursuasive than me, and most of all I can point to myself as an example of a man who has not suffered from a host of medical treatments thus far. But in the end everyone must live or not with the decision they make.
The other day we had an AnCan Webinar with Dr. Jonathan Epstein, the go-to pathologist at Johns Hopkins for second opinions. He mentioned that he does actually consult with some of the men who reach out to him. This brought a smile to my face when I recalled a good friend who was leaning toward his own alternative treatments for his GL-4+3 diagnosis. I encouraged him to get a second opinion from Dr. Epstein. On his own he called the office and Dr. Epstein listened politely for 10 minutes while my friend described his alternative treatment protocol. Dr. Epstein responded, “That is all fine and good and you can continue with that protocol but you need to know that without medical intervention this disease can kill you!” That was all it took, a few weeks later he was getting radiation and he is doing fine and we are best of friends.
by Rick Davis | Dec 21, 2020 | Advocacy, Blood Cancers, Brain Tumors, Cancer Caregivers, Cancer Resources, Men 'Speaking Freely', Men's Breast Cancer, Ovarian Cancer, Prostate Cancer, Recent News, RMC, Thyroid Cancer
Almost 18 months ago, AnCan was honored to host a fascinating, thought provoking webinar titled ‘The Language of Cancer’. To save repetition, click on this link to learn exactly what that means. Essentially we are speaking about how cancer patietns refer to themselves, and how the medical world may employ language that is unintentionally insulting.
By way of example, a doc often say a patient has failed a drug ……. NO, the patient hasn’t failed the drug – the drug has failed the patient!
Just the past week, when we were discussing this very webinar and topic in one of our virtual groups, one of our webinar panelists published a new article on the same old topic in Psychology Today, Prof Jamie Aten is the Founder of the Humanitarian Disaster Institute at Wheaton College, where he also teaches psychology. He has also lived with Stage 4 colon cancer diagnosed 7 years ago, though, thankfully, Jamie is currently NED – No Evidence of Disease.
If you live with cancer or are a caregiver, it’s almost certain you’ll have an opinion on this topic. We welcome your response if you’d like to write your own blogpost!
by Rick Davis | Nov 8, 2020 | Cancer Resources, Blood Cancers, Brain Tumors, Cancer Caregivers, Complementary Medicine, Maui, mCRPC, Men 'Speaking Freely', Men's Breast Cancer, nmCRPC, Ovarian Cancer, Prostate Cancer, Recent News, Thyroid Cancer, Women's Breast Cancer
Things don’t always go the way we plan … or want.- from the recent elections to our health, to just taking care of daily biz. We have to be careful how that impacts the way we interact with others. Peter’s thoughts crystalllize how our emotions can impact many more than just us (rd)
“WINNING AND LOSING”
As I sit at my desk, it is Monday morning November 2nd the day before election day. I woke up this morning thinking of this theme and how applicable it is to those of us dealing with a cancer diagnosis. In our case a diagnosis of Prostate Cancer.
For 24 years my final career was as a maintenance supervisor for Haleakala National Park. One of my duties in that position was to be a Heli-Manager. This involved coordinating and managing the ground operations for the periodic use of contract helicopters that we used to transport firewood and other materials to the Park’s historic backcountry cabins. This job had many inherent dangers including hooking up a swivel cable to the belly of a helicopter hovering just a foot or two over my head, loading cargo nets with materials to be sling loaded to the drop sites, calculating the weights of each load, ensuring the safety of myself and that of the rest of my ground crew and communicating by radio to the pilot and others of my crew on the receiving end of the cargo. It was a lot to keep track of, and it required a high level of intensity and concentration.
One Monday morning during this operation one of my employees came to work, and his home state professional football team had lost in the playoffs the day before. He was pretty bummed out. So bummed out that I didn’t take it seriously at first. Afterall, football was just a game in my mind. Life goes on. But in his mind, it was pretty close to the end of the world. I tried my best to get him to “let it go”. But he would not drop his gloomy attitude of defeat. It was so pervasive in him and he would not stop talking about it to the rest of the crew. It was becoming a big distraction and for the safety of our task at hand I had to send him off to do another job on his own far away from our helicopter operations.
I bring up this story because it is all too easy to associate a cancer diagnosis with somehow losing. This can be an insidious and infectious attitude that can not only weigh down ourselves, but those around us including family, friends and even our medical support community. An exaggerated negative attitude and clinging to the feeling that one has “lost” can be a dangerous distraction.
In the bigger picture, we have not lost. Our bodies might be quite challenged due to our diagnosis, but we still have a vital part to play in our family, our workplace, our community and it is NOT to infect all of these others with a bummed-out attitude lest we drive them away, and we quickly will.
Our attitude, like diet and exercise is one of the key things that we have absolute control over. In my own experience if I find myself starting to wake up on the wrong side of the bed, I rearrange the furniture and put THAT side of the bed against the wall so that I have to wake up on the RIGHT side. Bottom line, take responsibility for your own attitude!
