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If Medicine Doesn’t Come to you, Go to the Medicine!
You know what they say about Mohammed and the Mountain …… if the mountain will not go to Mohammed, Mohammed must go to the mountain! Well it’s often like that today with cutting edge medicine – and even not so cutting edge if you live in out of the way places like Maui, HI where our Board President, Peter Kafka, resides. It’s all part of Being Your Own Best Advocate…… (rd) PS Peter has asked me to clarify, he wrote what follows – not me. But I guess most of you can figure that out!
Back in 2014 when I was first diagnosed with advanced prostate cancer, my younger son who was 38 years old at the time was in the urologist’s office with me getting the news. As I was seated on the exam table, he was standing in the corner leafing through the booklets and pamphlets about prostate cancer while we waited for the doctor to deliver the bad news. My son, holding up a booklet exclaimed to me; “Dad, this literature is older than me!” Right away we both knew we were in the WRONG place.
Unfortunately, so many men and women reside or walk into the “wrong” place when it comes to getting access to the most up to date technology in terms of treatment or diagnostic tools. Little did I know back then. I lived at that time under the illusion that the “Doctor” knew everything and would of course be up to date with the latest and greatest. Not so, as I quickly learned.
One of the great values that I have found in participating regularly in our AnCan prostate cancer support groups is the experiential reporting on all the new cutting-edge treatments and diagnostic tools that are emerging and available. Recently one of our number took advantage of the new technology of Micro Ultrasound to guide a biopsy. Apparently, this is found to be even better than the 3T multi-parametric MRI in determining just where to poke the needle and take a tissue sample, leading to a far more accurate diagnosis. It can detect small, but significant lesions within the prostate that might otherwise be missed.
The rub however, like any new advancement is that not every facility or doctor will be in the “know” or have access to such tools or treatments. Don’t I know this well, living here on the Island of Maui in the middle of the Pacific Ocean. The lesson for all of us is that we should carry a business card stating; “Have Suspicion Will Travel”. Please don’t wait for technology to come to your doorstep or for enlightenment to come to your doctor. Your life is way too important to me.
Support comes in many forms, and here at AnCan, we are so blessed to have Hannah Garrison, a fantastic MS activist, moderator for our MS Virtual Support Group, and artist.
In honor of MS Awareness Month (March) we had a phenomenal time with adaptable art of all skill levels. We used paint and old gift cards to create masterpieces. We even had adorable kids join for a family night!
Feel free to create this art project anytime (no matter what community you belong to) with the video below: (Scroll down for supply list)
Supply list:
1. Acrylic paint
2. paper plate or palette
3. old, empty gift card or old credit card – the paint will ruin it, so make sure they know it can’t be usable
4. napkins – lots!! things will get messy
5. paper – any sturdy paper – cardstock, watercolor paper, acrylic paper
6. brush – optional, for mixing colors on your paper plate/ palette
We will be offering more art related support soon, including an AnCan art gallery. If you’d like more information or have any suggestions, please email me at alexa (at) ancan.org!
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Peter Kafka, our Board Chair and Lead Moderator for several of our video-chat virtual support groups, poignantly reflects this week on the meaning of 7 years living with his prostate cancer. (rd)
One subject that comes up fairly often in our prostate cancer support calls is “fatigue”. Usually in the context of dealing with physical fatigue as a side effect of various treatment drugs. But I am thinking today about a different level of fatigue that affects us mentally and emotionally. We hear a lot about this in regards to the ongoing Covid-19 pandemic. A year or so into it and people are crying out, “Enough already!”. But I would guess that many of you feel the same sentiment regarding your ongoing experience with a prostate cancer diagnosis.
I have reached my 7-year anniversary since my official diagnosis of prostate cancer. What is it about the number seven? Yes, it has some kind of man-made spiritual significance. The seven colors of the rainbow, the seven days of the week, Snow White and the Seven Dwarfs and of course the Seven-year Itch. But as I (celebrate?) this seven-year anniversary of dealing with my prostate cancer I hear myself crying out, “Enough Already!”. Fatigue is setting in.
I have done my best to look at this disease from a wide variety of angles. The friendships I have made with many of you. The increased understanding of the dynamics of prostate cancer among an ever-increasing body of men and women. The empowerment of taking on the job of being one’s own best advocate. But in honesty, prostate cancer and all the accompanying side effects of the variety of treatment modalities that I have, and continue to experience, bring on a good deal of mental and emotional fatigue.
I don’t believe that medical science graphs this fatigue factor. We read a lot about “overall survival – OS” or “progression free survival – PFS”. I guess the category of “Quality of Life” might come closest to what I am talking about, but it doesn’t quite capture the essence. I suspect that any of you who have been on this journey for any length of time know what I am talking about. I don’t have an answer, and I am certainly not selling any kind of snake oil for treatment. I know in my heart and mind that this bump in the road will pass and I will move forward. I always do.
Wendy had a great blog post to share from our friends at Cure. Titled “The Cancer ‘Bombshell’: 8 Tips for Devoted Caregivers“. With great practical advice and commentary, we’re sure you will find this incredibly helpful. My caregiver, my mom Lisa, will especially appreciate tip number 8. Hint: it’s about her favorite food.
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