by Rick Davis | Oct 26, 2020 | Cancer Resources, Advocacy, Blood Cancers, Cancer Caregivers, Health Resources, Men 'Speaking Freely', Men's Breast Cancer, Ovarian Cancer, Prostate Cancer, Recent News, Thyroid Cancer, Women's Breast Cancer
Peter Kafka’s musing this week, looks at how invention and innvation can be a two-dged sword.
Please bear with me on these thoughts, because I don’t know where I am going but I think it important to consider. Yesterday my son and I went out to change the brake pads on my Toyota. I am the middle man in a three-generation tradition of shade tree mechanics. The notion is that “if it was put together by a human then it can be fixed by one”. I believe that many men carry the DIY gene, and women too. This notion changed a bit when our creations became super complex and computerized and we had to seek expert help in certain repairs that were beyond the scope of a You Tube video. But still the tradition carries on. The DIY gene has not mutated.
When it comes to the break down of the human body, or the interruption of certain natural cycles in the world at large this “Do It Yourself” gene springs into action. As a result, truly amazing achievements have been made in the field of medicine and science in recent years and there seems at times to be no end in sight. The notion is that if we “put our minds to it” we can fix anything. This is currently being played out with great intensity to find a vaccine for Covid-19.
I know my life has benefitted from the many advancements of science and medicine. I am not complaining. My life has been extended, like many millions for whatever purpose. But like many things, it is a two-edged sword. The extended life expectancy and health of human beings on this planet has been at the expense of many other life forms in the plant and animal kingdoms. This thought should give anyone great pause. Perhaps I should leave it there. Make of this paradox what you will.
by Rick Davis | Oct 22, 2020 | Cancer Resources, Advocacy, AYA, Blood Cancers, Brain Tumors, Cancer Caregivers, Maui, mCRPC, Men 'Speaking Freely', Men's Breast Cancer, nmCRPC, Ovarian Cancer, Prostate Cancer, Recent News, Thyroid Cancer
Sometime over the past month, a man attended one of AnCan’s video chat, virtual support groups with a big problem on his mind. This man had been on hormone therapy – more precisely androgen deprivation therapy, for close to 12 months and he was suffering, physically and mentally from having little or no testosterone in his body. He was fatigued, had “Lupron Brain” – brain fog, and was emotionally on the edge … all the time. Moreover, & understandably, he didn’t want to let his employer and workmates know he lived with advanced cancer. Result ….. he unintentionally upset colleagues, couldn’t complete his work tasks and …. received an offiicial employment warning.
This fellow came to us for support, and the best we could do was to suggest he speak to Human Resources under confidentialty; and/or seek an employment lawyer. What we didn’t know is that there is a non-profit out there to assist … and in their own words, this situation is their bread and butter.
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by Rick Davis | Oct 12, 2020 | Advocacy, AYA, Blood Cancers, Cancer Caregivers, Cancer Resources, Men's Breast Cancer, Ovarian Cancer, Recent News, RMC, Thyroid Cancer, Women's Breast Cancer
Alexa Jett has recently connected with AnCan – initially to co-moderate the planned thyroid cancer virtual group we hope to start by year-end. But subsequently her infectious, warm and enthusiastic pesonality opened volunteer opportunities with us. Alexa recently directed The TALK – MS webinar, and she has introduced the Renal Meduallry Carcinoma (RMC) group to us wthat will have its first meeting this ocming week. Now we are working on Adolescent & Young Adult (AYA) opportuities.
Alexa survived recurrent papillary thyroid cancer, most recently in 2019. First diagnosed in 2017, aged 25, Alexa was treated at M.D. Anderson. Whilst there, she refequented Kim’s Place – the AYA retreat where she met one of our RMC moderators, caregiver Charissa Monroe, who lost her husband to RMC.
ESPN published an article this week on how Kim’s Place came to be, and Alexa was interviewed extensively, It was just published on The Undefeated blog and you can read it here:
How the late, great Kim Perrot keeps the Houston Comets’ legacy alive
by Rick Davis | Oct 11, 2020 | hospice and palliative, Advocacy, Blood Cancers, Brain Tumors, Cancer Caregivers, Cancer Resources, Maui, mCRPC, Men 'Speaking Freely', Men's Breast Cancer, Multiple Sclerosis, nmCRPC, Prostate Cancer, Recent News, RMC, Sarcoidosis, Women's Breast Cancer
Our Board President, he prefers this to Chair(!), reflects this week on a conversation many must face!
Recently AnCan in partnership with UsToo initiated a webinar series titled; The Talk. The series focused upon the significance of conversations with family, particularly our children regarding the implications of a diagnosis and treatment for cancer. My younger son Jeffrey and I participated in the panel of the first webinar speaking about the reality of genetic driven prostate cancer and the possibility of passing it on to my children.
Last night I was thinking about another “TALK” which was a big part of my experience this year and one which is often difficult to have. In early May of this year my one sibling, my sister passed away at the age of 78-1/2 years. She was kind of a renegade and a rather unique woman. Her first love and passion was riding motorcycles. When she died, she left 3 bikes in her garage including her 1981 RS -1100 BMW. She began her motorcycle experience way back in the 1950’s as a beatnik in Greenwich Village. Later she made numerous trips to ride in Asia, Europe and all over N. America attending many BMW rallies.
I mention this because as her health declined in her later years, she was quite clear with me about not wanting to prolong her life when she could no longer ride her bikes. She and I had numerous “talks” about end of life issues. She always thought she would “go out” in a fiery crash, but alas it was not to be. She broke her hip and because of many other leg problems it was doubtful that she would be able to walk again. After hip surgery she was moved into a nursing home where she lasted about one week.
Her last couple of weeks she was pretty foggy and incoherent but she and I were able to connect via Face Time a day or two before the end. She knew me, and expressed her wish to get out of the facility and go home. I told her that until she could master a walker she could not do so. She knew that was not to be and I asked her if she was going to go to “Plan B”? She said; “Yes, it would be Plan B”. A day or two later she refused her food and meds and removed her oxygen and facilitated the end of her journey. She knew she lived a remarkable life and lasted beyond her expectations and was ready to depart.
I am very thankful that we made the space to have, The Talk so that we both were prepared for the unexpected. It made the transition so much easier. I guess I bring this up because it is kind of the elephant in the room for all of us and so many ignore this reality and put off The Talk. Most likely very few if any of you who participate in our Low and Intermediate Prostate Cancer Virtual meetings will pass on as a result of this disease, but still the fear tends to lurk in the mind.
