With Open Enrollment starting on October 15, two AnCan’rs asked for advice this week on Medicare plans – and yes it’s complicated. AnCan recommends you watch the webinar we held last October to help understand the difference between traditional Medicare and Medicare Advantage. The dollar details are different for 2025 but not the principles.
Lastly, my own health insurance broker, Kim Umphres, is licensed to write in 15 States. He offered his help to all in last year’s webinar, so take him up umphres100@yahoo.com
Since the same questions are likely in the mind of many others, I have written this Blog Post. I am no expert but this may illustrate how I think about my own health insurance. Sadly, I cannot help you all individually – consult with your own Medicare health insurance for the best advice.
Onward & upwards, rick
Many of us on Medicare are faced with renewing our plans – or buying a plan for the first time. If you choose not to buy a plan to supplement Medicare, it leaves you exposed to roughly 20% of your medical costs. That can amount to very big bucks!
The main choice is whether to opt for Traditional Medicare + a Supplement (Medigap) Plan + a Drug Plan. Alternatively, a Medicare Advantage Plan can look attractive but comes with warts.
If you are low income and cannot afford the available plans, there are Medicaid alternatives for Medicare supplements.
Advantage Plans (Plan C) restrict your choice of Health Care Providers since they are based on Provider Networks. If you need a particular type of specialist, for example a genitourinary medical oncologist, or a neurologist who specializes in MS, this can be a problem with Advantage. Community Standard of Care is often the byword. If you choose an Advantage Plan, be sure it covers HCPs who practice at a Center of Excellence.
Advantage Plans usually have small monthly premiums, sometimes zero. They also include co-pays when you visit a Provider. Co-pays can be anywhere from Zero dollars to several hundred for fancy scans like PSMA, so you have to look carefully at the coverage. The more you use the plan, the more you pay. Some may include coinsurance – avoid those altogether. It’s a nuance we won’t get into here.
You can also go out of network to a Provider of your choice, but copays will be significantly higher. For example, you may pay $50 for a visit to a specialist in-network. Out-of-network, the cost can be significantly higher – often 40% of the approved Medicare fee for the service sought.
Advantage Plans often have a Gatekeeper who must approve any referral. You may not be able to self refer. Also there can be stricter intervention by the Plan to pre-approve procedures.
Drugs are included, however there is also a co-pay for some generic and all branded drugs that depends on the tier in which they are classified in the Plan’s drug formulary. List the drugs you use and find the cost. That said, the good news in 2025 is that drug out-of-pocket costs cannot exceed $2,000.
Traditional Medicare with a Supplement (Plans F,G,K,L,M,N) may not restrict your choice of HCPs – you can go anywhere in or out of state provided the Provider accepts Medicare.
Traditional Medicare Supplement Plans cover the 20% not covered by Medicare A and B. You pay a monthly premium that varies according to the plan chosen. The different supplement plans have different features. The more you pay in monthly premium, the less the restrictions and the lower the deductibles.
In addition you will need drug coverage (Plan D). Again that includes a monthly premium, plus a charge for each drug, so you have to shop plans against your Rx. For 2025, drug out-of-pocket costs cannot exceed $2,000.
As long as your chosen Provider accepts self-referrals, there may be no Gatekeeper. Procedures and protocols may still be subject to pre-approval.
Since Advantage Plans can be more profitable for the Payer, they offer lots of bells and whistles to sell the plan – for example subsidies for OTC products. One plan I was offered recently, actually pays the Holder $5/month!
I’m trained as an economist so I look at risk reward. I compare the annual maximum out-of-pocket cost between the Advantage Plan and the Traditional Medicare Plans (inc. the drug plan).
For traditional Medicare There is a required monthly premium for both the Supplement and the Drug Plan. Add those together and multiply by 12. In addition you can have out-of-pocket drug costs, especially if you are using expensive cancer drugs, but that cannot exceed $2,000 in 2025. Btw, the $2000 will decrease in subsequent years.
Each Advantage Plan has a stipulated maximum out-of-pocket cost for in-network and out-of-network Providers. In-network will be less. I look at the out-of-network max, and add to that any monthly premiums that are usually minimal. Drugs are included with a co-pay, but that co-pay cannot exceed $2,000 in 2025.
Now that I know what I HAVE to pay with Traditional + Supplement vs what I could pay with Advantage depending on my usage, I can compare whether I want to roll the dice to save money.
If the Traditional route costs me $500 in monthly premiums, I know I am out-of-pocket $6,000 plus my drug copay costs capped at $2,000.
Say my Advantage Plan has a monthly premium of $25, then for sure I am out of pocket $300. The rest depends on how much medical care I use. Assume ( the economist’s favorite word) the out-of-pocket for out-of-network in my plan is $8,000, that is my max. I still have to consider up to $2,000 for drugs.
Let’s compare!
IN THE WORST CASE I am spending $6,000 (+ drugs) for Traditional Supplement versus $8,300 (+ drugs) for Advantage. The Advantage could be $2,300 more pricey.
IN THE BEST CASE, I am out-of-pocket $300 (+ drugs) for Advantage vs $6,000 (+ drugs) for Traditional Supplement, so I could save $5,700 with Advantage.
Risk-Reward… do I want to roll the dice to save up to $5,700 that could cost me an extra $2,300??
Each person has to make that decision.
There’s more to it than this. For example HMO’s like Kaiser Permanente may make it even harder to go out of network. And with KP, you are guarantied to only get community Standard of Care medicine . As I often say, KP is great as long as you don’t get seriously ill.
AnCan strongly suggests finding a local Medicare Health Insurance Agent to help you sort through this morass. Plans change by State, so your agent must be licensed in your State.
And one last thing. The first time you enter Medicare there is NO underwriting. No matter your preconditions, you are accepted to any Traditional supplement or Advantage Plan. In subsequent years, you may be subject to underwriting should you choose to switch plans. You can be restricted from changing between an Advantage and Traditional Supplement Plan.
AnCan recommends watching our webinar from last October to help understand the difference between traditional Medicare and Medicare Advantage. 2025 details are different but not the principles.
We also recommend you visit the Triage website and attend its free webinars. Many of their Medicare resources can be found at https://triagecancer.org/medicare-cancer
For differences between the Traditional Supplement Plans, consult with a specialized Medicare Health Insurance agent. F and G are the best options. There are also high deductible options. An agent can also help you compare Advantage plans by various criteria, like maximum out-of-pocket for out-of-network care.
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Editor’s pick: The use of different labs to measure PSA, can lead to inconsistent results. CE
Special Note: Note: Rick Davis and Alexa Jett enjoyed being “live” with Dr. Mark in person for this meeting, also Andrew makes an appearance.
Topics Discussed: High PSA with biopsy; research of treatment protocols; active surveillance; MRI guided biopsy; PI-RADS 4&5 lesions; positive cores not showing up on MRI; anxiety with regards to active surveillance and treatment; elevated PSA – standing alone does not necessitate biopsy; use the same lab for better consistency in lab results; change in tumor size; diet; inflammation; IRE clinical trials; focal treatment; radical prostatectomy; cardiovascular risk factors and pacemakers; risk of infection while wearing a catheter; Decipher score; PCRI Conference; Centers of Excellence; PET scans; potential of cancer spreading outside of the prostate; abnormalities in bladder and rectal wall; SBRT; ProAct adjustable continence therapy; hyperbaric oxygen therapy and its application to prostate cancer treatment; Prostox score; reminder of the other groups such as Men Speaking Freely.
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Eric M. Atlanta
Theranostics I believe is the name?
John A
Igancio, there are several ways we deal with scanxiety. Behavior: exercise, other activities ie yoga, attending groups and sharing. Cognition: distraction, cognitive therapy techniques, mindfulness, meditation. Medication: as needed short term antianxiety meds for panicky anxiety or sleep, or antidepressants which block panicky anxiety. Therapy: behavioral, psychotherapy. Time can lessen it though as rick said even us oldtimers get it, but it’s not so fresh and harsh.
Ignacio
Thank you John! Actually, I do not believe I have “scananxiety” as much as “results anxiety”, not only from scans but also from PSA tests. However, time and experience have helped quite a bit. I have accepted my situation and am willing to take actioin if needed!
Ignacio
Thank you!
John A
MedGasRes. 2018 Oct-Dec; 8(4); 167-171. doi:10.4103/2045-9912.248268 Further application of hyperbaric oxygen in prostate cancer. Lu et al
Gregg – Metro Detroit
Adios guys – gotta go!
John A
clarify spelling/pronunciation: SpaceOAR hydrogel is one brand of the 3 Mark mentioned
For men facing cancer treatment, the risk of infertility is a major concern that is often overlooked. While fertility preservation options exist, studies consistently show that a significant proportion of patients are not adequately informed or offered these choices by their healthcare providers before undergoing potentially sterilizing cancer treatments.
The main barriers to men being aware of fertility preservation include limited knowledge and training among providers, discomfort discussing the sensitive topic, low referral rates to reproductive specialists, logistical challenges, time constraints before treatment initiation, perceptions about appropriateness based on prognosis, and patient-related factors like lack of awareness and financial concerns.
It is crucial for men to understand their options for preserving fertility, which include:
Sperm Cryopreservation (Sperm Banking)
This standard and most effective method involves collecting and freezing sperm samples before treatment for future use through assisted reproductive techniques like intrauterine insemination (IUI) or in vitro fertilization (IVF) with intracytoplasmic sperm injection (ICSI). It is well-established and successful for post-pubertal males.
Testicular Tissue Cryopreservation
An experimental approach where testicular tissue is removed and frozen before cancer treatment. The frozen tissue may potentially be used later to extract sperm stem cells for reimplantation or to induce in vitro spermatogenesis. However, no live births from this method have been reported in humans yet.
Gonadal Shielding
Protecting the testicles from radiation damage by using lead shields during radiotherapy. Its effectiveness is limited by patient anatomy and radiation field requirements.
Sperm Retrieval
For males who cannot produce a semen sample, sperm can be surgically retrieved from the testicles or epididymis through techniques like testicular sperm extraction (TESE) or percutaneous epididymal sperm aspiration (PESA). Retrieved sperm can then be used for IVF/ICSI. This invasive option is appropriate when a male cannot produce a semen sample due to conditions like anejaculation, obstructive azoospermia, or prior to puberty.
While sperm cryopreservation is the most established and successful fertility preservation method, sperm retrieval combined with IVF/ICSI can be an option when cryopreserved sperm is unavailable or inadequate. However, IVF/ICSI is more invasive, costly, and has lower success rates compared to using cryopreserved sperm for insemination.
Overcoming barriers to awareness and utilization of fertility preservation options requires improved education and adherence to clinical guidelines from organizations like the American Society of Clinical Oncology (ASCO) and the American Society for Reproductive Medicine (ASRM). Establishing formal fertility preservation programs with multidisciplinary teams, patient navigators, and educational initiatives can help ensure that men with cancer have the opportunity to make informed decisions about preserving their fertility before undergoing cancer treatments.
For questions, please contact Mark Perloe at mperloe@outlook.com
Bang your drum… it could make you smarter and healthier!
I don’t want to work I want to bang on the drum all day I don’t want to play I just want to bang on the drum all day
–Todd Rundgren
Twice in the last several months, the topic of drumming came up in our AnCan Men Speaking Freely group and it generated some excitement both times. So this month’s invite will be on that topic.In my former practice whenever I have given a non-verbal treatment there is a big relief that no talking is involved. In bypassing the verbal and left-brain systems we gain access to a typically unused part of ourselves. I wonder if we can use this approach to cope with our serious illnesses and have a better life?
Our brains have a characteristic called plasticity, the ability to change. You may have heard of this regarding the little finger brain circuit of violinists; it grows as they become proficient. Drummers also have different brains than the rest of us. They have fewer, thicker nerve fibers between the two halves of the brain. They have more efficiently organized motor cortices. (Schlaffke, 2019). Because of this, drummers can do things that we can’t. They can coordinate the two sides of the brain better, and perform motor tasks with greater efficiency. They can play different rhythms with each hand and foot at the same time.
Schlaffke’s subjects had drummed many hours per week for decades. But Bruchhage’s (2020) subjects trained for only 8 weeks and showed several changes in the cerebellum plus changes in the cortex, showing not only cerebellar plasticity but also communication and coordination between the cerebellum and brain sensorimotor areas as well as areas for cognitive control.
Drumming is very complicated, which is why it’s unfair that the lead guitar and vocal guy gets all the girls (Greenfield, J. 2022).
For some reason, there is a close association between beat synchronization (integrating auditory perception with motor activity) and reading ability in children (Bonacina, 2021). Higher synchronization ability predicts better literacy skills. Maybe early intervention involving drumming can improve literacy in kids?
Cahart et.al (2022) showed that drumming can improve behavioral outcomes for autistic adolescents and elucidated some of the neurology involved. Does this mean it could help us?
Drums have been used for millennia for healing, inducing trance, and even psyching up soldiers.
We have learned that drumming is not just about waking up the right brain, but also about connecting the sides of the brain, and the cerebellum with the cortex. It can induce alpha brain waves. It can release endorphins. Even T-cells respond to drumming (Bittman). It induces present-moment experience, which we often work toward to deal with death anxiety. Interpersonal connections are made when people drum together. Despite the effort involved, it induces relaxation. I have come across papers describing drumming and music therapy for a wide variety of emotional problems and currently, there are 8000 music therapists in the US.
How about for us? We see above the possibility of reductions in anxiety, tension, pain, isolation, depression, and over-thinking the past and future. There are many studies of music therapy in ICUs, with patients on ventilators, easing hemodialysis pain, with positive results. Also, helpful with narcotic use, social integration, and depression. MSKCC uses music therapy.
With terminal cancer, there is data showing that music helps breathing, QOL, psychospiritual integration, reducing pain in chemotherapy, radiation, and helps pediatric breast and lung Ca patients (Ramirez 2018, Hilliard 2003, Burns 2015 Tuinmann 2017, Barrera 2002, Li 2011, Lin 2011). Atkinson (2020) found improvement with fatigue. I couldn’t find any studies focused only on Prostate Cancer.
Well, all this scholarly stuff is really unnecessary to anyone who ever banged a pot with a wooden spoon. Kids love it. Adults love situations where it’s OK to be wild and make noise, such as drumming circles and Pound classes. It’s just fun and feels good.
Dr. John Antonucci
Editor: Dr. John wrote this for our Men Speaking Freely Reminder on Dec 7, 2023. It’s such a perceptive, helpful and instructive piece, AnCan wanted to share it widely.
I am writing with a very heavy heart to report the death of our dear Board Member, Advisory Board Member, Moderator, Participant and my good buddy, Herb Geller PhD G-d Rest His Soul.
The loss of dear Herb z”l is already reverberating around AnCan and will undoubtedly amplify as more learn of his demise. Herb touched many well beyond his Advanced Prostate Cancer ‘Brains Trust’, Moderators, Peers and Participants. The Blood Cancer group got to know him well when he attended regularly on behalf of his brother. The Pancreatic Cancer folks met him when he showed up for his next door neighbor. Our Men Speaking Freely Group loved and respected him for sharing his fears and concerns. Members of our Advisory Board got to interact with Herb as did Medical Academics and others who participated in AnCan’s research projects.
Here are a few of the words I already see bandied around –
“kind, smart, caring, thoughtful”
“My heart is heavy and I’m at a loss for words. There is something I’m feeling that I can’t express sufficiently”
“this is the deepest hurt since we lost Dominic (2015)”
“Thanks to each of you for your loving support of him and all of us for each other.”
Herb passed away from advanced prostate cancer that had evidently morphed into small cell/neuroendocrine like (NEC) disease. A late diagnosis just one day before he entered the NIH, his place of work, identified this. Herb was scheduled to undergo tests for his highly elevated endocrine markers, however the source was now evident on admission. The NIH never appeared to acknowledge or treat him for this diagnosis. It finally added a neuroendocrine oncologist to Herb’s team after 21 days after repeated AnCan prodding from the date of admission. Herb underwent research procedures related to Cushing’s Disease and its symptoms. In due course, AnCan will follow up as appropriate.
Never one to give up the opportunity to sail anything from a small dinghy to an ocean-going yacht, Dr. Herb Geller was a nationally recognized expert in neuro-biology; a profile is available on the NIH site. Herbie loved a a good Scotch, in Skye or anywhere else. On his request, AnCan did its best to sneak in a wee dram just to wet his lip in the final days but the ‘powers that be’ prevented us. I’ll have one for you tonight, Herb! And, we’ll make sure both your AnCan posters get written up for submission with credit to you.
Herb is survived by his wife of 55 years, Nancy, Director of the Office of Biostatistics for the National Heart, Lung and Blood Institute at the NIH. Also his younger brother, Ken, an eminent Supreme Court Advocate kennethsgeller@gmail.com. We wish Herb’s family and many friends, especially his “AnCan Family”, much comfort. May Herb’s memory always be a blessing – it certainly will be here at AnCan.
For our Jewish readers, Herb’s z”l Hebrew name is Chanan Moshe ben Aaron v’Sara; he died on 25th Nisan.
Some 200 folks gathered together last Friday, June 24 at the Cold Spring Baptist Church in Mechanicsville, Virginia. to celebrate the life of our dear Advisory Board Member, Jerry Deans, Of Blessed Memory. I was honored to present one of the three tributes … and no surprise, we all said the same thing in different words.
Jerry loved life
Jerry loved to spread love
Jerry lived for the moment
Let’s be honest … there are few, if any, who would not want to be remembered for such wonderful and embracing atttributes. We loved Jerry becasue Jerry loved everyone!
Here first are my words, followed by those of Jim Schraidt that I read on his behalf. Alongside Jim’s eulogy, you see a picture in the church displayed on a carousel showing Jerry and Jim touching hands on their bucket list diving trip to Key Largo 12 months ago together with the original a little further down.
“This disease, (prostate cancer) as well as all cancers, thrusts people into the ‘Belly of the Beast.’ You have to experience it yourselves to know how devastating it can be. But there is help and hope. No matter what you are battling, there are people who have dedicated their lives to help improve yours.”
Not my words … I wish I was so eloquent. These are our beloved Jerry’s words. Mr. Deans was one of those immensely compassionate folks who dedicated his life to helping improve the lives of others who found themselves on the same road he was traveling – whether the loss of a loved one, cancer, or frankly any life experience, Jerry was there to help and support.
Jerry had lived with prostate cancer since 1999, aged 50. Unlike most of you sitting here, I came to know Jerry through prostate cancer. When prostate cancer came into my world it was both a curse and a blessing – Jerry was one of the biggest factors that made it a blessing.
It is also the reason I stand here before you all today. Likely, the majority of you know little about Jerry’s prostate cancer life. Patsi asked if I could do my best in 5 minutes or so to correct that, and it is my privilege to assume that honour. I can’t really even begin without paying tribute to Patsi’s role in how Jerry navigated this 23-year disease path.
As evident in all aspects of their marriage, Patsi was Jerry’s rock and support along with his faith. From keeping him on the right track with exercise and diet, to helping maintain his medical records – especially in recent months, attending appointments, providing continuous nurture, maintaining the household through emotional swings caused by the never-ending hormone therapy …. and what does that mean – living life for the past 20 odd years with no testosterone in your body. Yup Gents – you heard right!!
No T messes you up good! All those symptoms you hear the wife complaining about when she hits menopause – hot flushes, fatigue, brain fog, weight gain, emotional instability. Our men complain of the very same! All down to zippo testosterone each and every day. Who knew?? Well Patsi did, and she was one of the biggest reasons Jerry weathered the storm better than almost anyone else we have ever know living with advanced prostate cancer.
Jerry was truly amazing …. As far back as 2006, he was found to have metastatic lung nodules. These nodules were a bit like a spiritual epiphany … REALLY. They would repeatedly appear and disappear over many years, but we knew that they were prostate cancer cells in Jerry’s lungs. NO ONE LIVES 16 YEARS WITH LUNG METS.
And some of you may recall Jerry knocking off a bucket list item this time last year. He and our good buddy Jim Schraidt went diving in Key Largo. What you may not have known is that Jerry was already having some cognition issues. Why? …. brain mets!! NO ONE LIVES 15+ MONTHS WITH PROSTATE CANCER BRAIN METS. Even his neurosurgeon told him that.
In fact, Jerry continued to defy medical science for 23 years., He experienced almost every prostate cancer treatment known to man and his disappointment was that there was no more to roll out … but more of that later.
Jerry was always immensely grateful to his medical team – as I reflect, I don’t ever recall him badmouthing his docs …ever! More often he was calling to tell me how graciously and compassionately they had received him! That reflected Our Man!
Right now, I want you to hear directly from Jim Schraidt in Jim’s own words – the dear friend with whom Jerry went o Key Largo last year. Jim cannot be with us today as his wife Jane is undergoing cataract surgery in Chicago, but as they say – this message is endorsed by all Jerry’s UsTOO colleagues. UsTOO, btw, is no more and has been merged into ZERO; Jim now sits on their Board.
Jim Schraidt’s tribute below inserted here.
To borrow a term from one of our Pfizer colleagues, Jerry was a LEGEND of support for prostate cancer patients. Somewhere around 2006, Jerry started attending Peter Moon’s UsTOO Support Group here in Richmond. Peter – I feel sure you are here – please stand up.
Peter was one of the very few local folks who knew and understood Jerry’s condition. He has been a member of Jerry’s inner support circle longer than anyone except Patsi. Meanwhile, Jerry loved what UsTOO was doing and before very long he was offered a seat on the UsTOO Board where he could evangelize for support in the same way he evangelized for his faith. Indeed, he was a legend, and under his navigation UsTOO expanded and grew its loose network of physical, mainly peer-led support groups across the nation and the globe.
By the mid 20-teens, Jerry was Vice Chair and ready to step into the chair when his advanced prostate cancer made him think twice about assuming those responsibilities. Instead he took to the sidelines to support, coach and guide from the wings.
It was around 2014 that I came to meet Jerry. We knew of each other – I had been a bit of a rebel when it came to UsTOO as we engineered a scheme to replace the ineffective Chief Exec. Nonetheless, in 2014 the Board voted to give me and one of my accomplices-in-crime, dear Dominic Marrese Of Blessed Memory , national recognition awards. In my case it was for the work I was doing virtually in prostate cancer support. I continue to be active in virtual patient support for several diseases and conditions through AnCan Foundation. Jerry became a member of our Advisory Board when he stepped down from UsTOO in 2018, 2 years after we formed AnCan.
Jerry was a true confidant and advisor, both on personal and AnCan issues. I sought Jerry’s counsel when I was in a pickle, listened carefully and closely to his words of wisdom and heeded them. He was never afraid to tell me I stepped over the mark or should back off … and frankly, I can’t ever remember doing anything against his advice. Jerry guided me with great care and compassion; I will always hear him in my inner ear as I continue to ask for guidance.
Personally, it was an immense privilege to navigate Jerry through the recent maze of prostate cancer approvals and developments. And while the grief and bereavement support group that he led in Richmond, often coincided with our meetings, whenever Jerry attended our Advanced PCa virtual group, he was a rock star. None the least, when Jerry joined from his hospital bed a couple of months back to show us his battle scar from removing the brain mets.
It was ALWAYS an honor to explain developments. I navigated and guided Jerry on his medical journey as we developed the questions for him to ask at his upcoming appointments. He was fearless …. and always wanted to do more. right before entering hospice Jerry was still asking Patsi what else we could do …. what a surprise!!
“Not Today”
I can truly say in Jerry’s case it was never out of fear of death but love of his family, friends, church, colleagues, mentees … in fact humanity in general. He wanted to be around to do more good and spread more love.
Jerry was a man of great faith … not my Jewish faith, but he respected that in his conversations with me which I always appreciated. We all hope that faith is rewarding him now. All of us have lost a true friend and an immense human being …. may you all receive much comfort as the pain of recalling Jerry subsides, and may Jerry’s memory always be a true blessing.
Let me close as I started … with Jerry’s own words ….
“One of these days this cancer might get me, but it might not be today and probably not tomorrow. Since it is NOT THIS DAY … Today we fight, and live and love and do everything we can to help others along the way. “
Onward & upwards …
Jim Schraidt’s Eulogy
I first met Jerry when I was appointed to the Us TOO International Board of Directors in 2015, but I really got to know Jerry better when we both were selected to attend a week-long retreat for non-profit leaders in San Francisco in 2017.
It was there that we spent hours talking about our dreams for the prostate cancer community and our personal journeys with prostate cancer. Although our journeys have been very different, Jerry was always interested in and respectful of my issues. He truly helped me in my journey and in turning my negative emotions into positive energy and concrete plans for supporting and advocating for the prostate cancer community.
During the retreat, I was amazed by Jerry’s ability to communicate with and support all of the other participants, most of whom were women. His extraordinary communication skills came from a sincere interest in the people around him, his ability and willingness to listen, and his positive non-judgmental and hope-filled approach to life and problem solving. He has spent countless hours using those skills for the benefit of the prostate community.
On a more personal note, last June, Jerry graciously invited me to join his bucket list diving trip. My son Brian had died about three weeks earlier, and Jerry knew that Brian and I loved diving together. Besides rejoicing with Jerry as he fulfilled this bucket list wish, he and Patsi helped me cope with my grief and remember good times with Brian.
Jerry, I miss you brother, but I know you will always be with me.
By the way, I was not the only AnCan’r present. Super-Volunteer aand Moderator Rich (and Brenda) Jackson drove up 100 miles from Norfolk, Va to keep me company. I was very grateful to see a familiar face. Boardie and Moderator,Herb Geller would have been present too, but was sailing in Scotland.
Onward & upwards, Jerry … your memory will forever be a blessing to all of us.
With terminal cancer, there is data showing that music helps breathing, QOL, psychospiritual integration, reducing pain in chemotherapy, radiation, and helps pediatric breast and lung Ca patients (Ramirez 2018, Hilliard 2003, Burns 2015 Tuinmann 2017, Barrera 2002, Li 2011, Lin 2011). Atkinson (2020) found improvement with fatigue. I couldn’t find any studies focused only on Prostate Cancer.
Some 200 folks gathered together last Friday, June 24 at the Cold Spring Baptist Church in Mechanicsville, Virginia. to celebrate the life of our dear Advisory Board Member, Jerry Deans, Of Blessed Memory. I was honored to present one of the three tributes … and no surprise, we all said the same thing in different words.
In fact, Jerry continued to defy medical science for 23 years., He experienced almost every prostate cancer treatment known to man and his disappointment was that there was no more to roll out … but more of that later.
I first met Jerry when I was appointed to the Us TOO International Board of Directors in 2015, but I really got to know Jerry better when we both were selected to attend a week-long retreat for non-profit leaders in San Francisco in 2017.
During the retreat, I was amazed by Jerry’s ability to communicate with and support all of the other participants, most of whom were women. His extraordinary communication skills came from a sincere interest in the people around him, his ability and willingness to listen, and his positive non-judgmental and hope-filled approach to life and problem solving. He has spent countless hours using those skills for the benefit of the prostate community.
By the way, I was not the only AnCan’r present. Super-Volunteer aand Moderator Rich (and Brenda) Jackson drove up 100 miles from Norfolk, Va to keep me company. I was very grateful to see a familiar face. Boardie and Moderator,Herb Geller would have been present too, but was sailing in Scotland.